duck tales
I took our two year old today (he had his birthday!) to feed the ducks at a pond close to our house and I want to share the lesson that hit me right in the face.
We go often to feed these ducks, and let me tell you about them. There are two large geese that are really weird looking, two large black ducks that have gross red wattle things on their noggins and then lots of plain ducks and mallards.
When we feed the ducks- they go HOLLABACK CRAZY. They can hear us before we arrive and start honking and hooting and gathering to our regular spot like a deranged crowd of Elvis fans.
And here is what I noticed--after feeding them for a dozen or so throws, I start to get annoyed at the bossy ones. The two large geese push everyone out of the way and grab every stinking bite. And then there are smaller ducks and geese that are pushy and get every 3rd or 4th bite. EW. There are pushy ones that try, but seem to be ½ second late every single time. LAME. Then there are some that hang back just waiting in case a bite gets close to them. and then there are many of the mallards don't even come close…ever.
As I get annoyed with the bossy ones, I ignore them. I throw to ones that aren't getting as much food. And I purposefully try NOT to give food to the pushy ones or sneaky ones. I start rewarding the calm ones. I go out of my way to please the quiet and trusting ones. And I secretly wish I could reach the ones that look like they don't even care. But here's the thing- I LIKE THOSE DUCKS BETTER! The ones that never even come over!
Long story short- this actually goes along well with laws of the universe. I bet the kids you can handle for a really long time at your house are the ones that are quiet more. Am I right? Or the ones that don't ask for much? Yup I know you are understanding my point now.
Growing up my sister NEVER asked for new clothes or new shoes and never complained about what she had (pretty much the opposite of my tactics to get clothes etc). And when we went shopping, guess who ALWAYS got more clothes, shoes and attention? Drumroll please….. you guessed it! HER!
Why? Because NEEDY IS GROSS. Neediness pushes away the abundance of all that is. It is a repellent to everything good coming to you. NEEDINESS means there IS NO TRUST. Neediness is the lack mentality of kill or be killed, and only the strongest survive. THERE IS NO FAITH or TRUST. (don't be like the gross red wattle ducks that fight everyone for the food)
The universal flow of LOVE, does just that FLOWS. A river flows greatest when there are no obstacles or diversions. When you can relax and trust that everything in your life is happening as IT SHOULD be and you NEED DO NOTHING, well get ready for a fiesta of love arriving at your doorstep!
Needing, wanting, controlling, pushing, manipulating, complaining, stressing, worrying….yup…all PUSH AWAY the flow of love.
How do we stop the neediness and step more into FAITH?
Simple, just watch how much fear there is in your life, body and mind, 24/7. Look at the conditioning of your thoughts and actions to PROTECT and COMPETE and BE SAFE.
There is nothing to protect yourself from. You are whole, worthy, loved, powerful and COMPLETE RIGHT NOW.
I'll leave this message I just vomited out with my favorite quote from A Course In Miracles to end it:
"NOTHING REAL CAN BE THREATENED
and NOTHING UNREAL EXISTS."
And dear reader, you are very, very real MY LOVE!!!!